I have to keep this short and choppy, but I’m willing to talk with anyone about my experience. I’ll just give the general tone of what I know. They were not roommates or casual friends. They were absolutely in a committed romantic relationship. How do I know? Because I’m “Nicholas number 2,” and I was also moved to Hawaii while seeing Mahdi.For context, before this I had only been in one serious relationship, and the ending hit me hard. It was around 10 months after my divorce. Mahdi was the first person I dated afterward. I was 26 in 2022, working as a server and trying to rebuild my life. He was 33 and had been a travel nurse for years.Was he my normal type? No. But at first he felt like relief. He was charming, attentive, and intense. By month two he had me flying Delta One to Hawaii for the first time in my life. Looking back now, after a lot of therapy, I recognize it as love bombing.He is one of the most manipulative people I’ve ever met. He used the same nickname for me that he used for Mr. Theiss and constantly compared us. In the beginning he was incredibly sweet, but once we got to Hawaii, everything changed.He criticized me constantly. Nothing I did was right, even something as small as getting up in the middle of the night. He called me lazy, evil, and selfish. If I tried to find work, he discouraged or blocked it. He would push arguments until I reacted emotionally, then record me. Later he’d send me edited clips or recordings to “prove” how crazy or cruel I supposedly was.
Again, I’m keeping this very short.
Our relationship ended after a domestic dispute that resulted in his arrest and a mutual no-contact order. His lawyer later tried to convince me to move back in and drop everything, saying his complaint was retaliatory and would be withdrawn. I told the judge to keep the order in place and keep him away from me.
I have proof of my experience. Last I heard, there may have already been a Nicholas 3 or 4.
He also modeled parts of his future family plans around Mr. Theiss. While we lived together, he openly talked about wanting a fair-skinned redheaded egg donor for that reason. I believe he later named a child Nikko. Sadly, I was told that child has since passed away due to health complications.
Oddly enough, his specialty is Pediatric Cardiac ICU (PCICU/CICU), and he’s reportedly worked in that field for nearly two decades.
There’s so much more. Just so much.
Just wow. What a painful experience for you. I hope you heal from this. You are stronger than you know.
Thank you. I’ve tried to get back out there, but it’s rough. I was basically the man’s live-in maid and chef. I had to learn how to make Persian food, clean the boogers off the walls he would wipe in front of me, and even be subjected to watching him poop and wipe with his own spit-covered toilet paper. He was extremely racist to anyone non-Persian, or maybe white. I’m lucky I’m a strong individual who fought back and advocated for myself. It made it easier for him to manipulate the story, but I refuse to be a victim. I learned from it, and it brought some beautiful people into my life. I’ll always be thankful for who I’ve become, but it’s been a ride. Much love to the strangers who became family in Hawaii. If it wasn’t for the kindness of a select few, I really don’t know how I would have even had food and water.
I powered through and finished my esthetician trade there. I recently graduated cum laude with my associate’s degree and was accepted to the University of Hawaiʻi at Mānoa for Fall 2026. I hope to help other LGBTQ+ people who have had similar lived experiences to mine in the future. Things do, and are still, getting better for me.
Extra Love to Brian for everything ❤️
And to Makana Esthetic and Wellness Academy for their patients, kindness, and support.
Prayers for Nicholas Thesis whom I believe is a victim of violence not an accident.
